It’s time to put Grandma’s advice aside because the current dating scene isn’t what it used to be and a good portion of the classic dating advice is out of date now. Kate Taylor, which is a relationship expert at Match.com, brings you the latest dating advice.
Wait a few days before you call
Back in the day, boy and girl meet, boy obtains the girl’s seven digits, boy waits a few days before he calls the girl, boy ends up looking perplexing and enticing. However, those days are long gone. In this modernized time when everyone carries a smart phone with them that can email, call, text, instant message, social network, not to mention challenge a person to an online game at any time, waiting around a few days to contact a girl just makes a boy seem like he doesn’t have any calling credits or he is putting in too much effort to be “cool”.
Really, just call the very next day. Calling before 24 hours has passed is a good idea. If you do not want to appear as if you are really putting in too much effort then do not put it too much effort – just call and say something that isn’t complicated like, “I had a really great time meeting you and I would love to hang out with you again sometime soon. Sound good?”
Don’t beat yourself up over being humorous or smart – the more run-of-the-mill you are earlier on in the communication phase, the more assured and well-versed you will seem, because it will appear as if asking people out is something you do all the time. And that is sexy whether you believe it or not.
Wait until a few dates before you get intimate
Time has moved on and today, quite a few women feel as if they are being commonly unchaste if they hold off right until they exit the pub. Thus, the invention of the three-date rule with the purpose of bridging the gap – couples were told to sleep with each other on the third date, but not too soon. Great advice? Actually, no.
While there exists major benefits to holding off with sleeping with a partner that are indisputable – both of you get a real look at each other’s real personality and character prior to taking that next step; you do not risk the chance of becoming attached to each other chemically, since you are not producing the “bonding hormone”, also known as Oxytocin, that is released when intercourse is taking place; seeing each other without the sex makes things a bit more light and enjoyable – a few dates just doesn’t allow enough time to really get to know someone beyond what they like to drink with dinner.
If you feel you should hold off, it is better to hold off for a few months. If you don’t feel like waiting, you should still disregard the three-date rule as it takes all of the mystery and excitement out of things. It would be better to catch them off guard at a time they would least expect it.
Whether you choose to wait or not, it is the way in which you act afterwards that will indicate how the relationship continues. If your actions are the same afterwards, there is a good possibility that you both will remain together. However, if you end up being needy, moody, or too attached, things will likely come to a halt or end. It is natural for people to become emotionally invested afterwards, however, if you feel that this will be the ending result for you, then maybe you should wait.
Make your partner experience the green-eyed monster
If your partner is not giving you as much attention as you want, seems uninterested a lot, and doesn’t show you the appreciation you deserve, the best solution is to make them jealous, correct? Incorrect! Just take a breather and focus on your own life for a short while. Anything besides this will appear reckless and needy.
For instance, if you bring your partner to some casual outing and use most of that time having a conversation with someone else, your partner would be left feeling unattractive, offended, and put off by your actions. It will likely seem quite obvious and phony. Instead, invite your partner to a casual outing and chat with everybody else – be the center of attention, whisk around, and enjoy yourself. Take the focus off of your moody mate and dive right into the fun of the evening. You could also go to a party with your buddies without inviting them – waiting until they invite you to go out someplace and fit that in with all of the different enjoyable, intriguing activities you have made plans for.
People who are confident in themselves, well-rounded, and willing to go after their goals, ambitions, and interests are the types of people that attract others. If you feel as if your partner is losing the interest they had in you, lose the interest that you have for them for a while and use the time you have to do the stuff you really enjoy doing. Your partner will notice your lost interest in them and come around again or they will just go with the flow and fade away which might make you a little upset but you will still have a life full of success, excitement, and enjoyment to give you support.
Girls, keep your accomplishments to a minimum
Fortunately, this isn’t the truth these days. Forbes conducted a recent study in the US which implies that men these days are more likely to pursue a wife that has drive and ambition. A continuous study which examines the traits that single Americans desire in a spouse revealed near the beginning of this year that “Ambition and industriousness” has climbed into the top 10 which has never been done before. Although it is only at the #10 spot, we can be certain that it will climb higher as many other males realize the benefits of having a smart, successful wife by their side that can share financial responsibility that comes along with supporting a home and family.
So girls, you should want to shine on your date as opposed to being scared to do so. If you just got promoted at work, let him know about this promotion. If you have a long-term goal that you really want to achieve, reveal this to him. The partner that is just right for you will be one that will want to assist you with reaching for your own stars.
Men, impress a girl with money
Fellas, if flashing around cash is the only solution you could think of to impress the ladies, read on – both your partner and bank manager will give you plenty of thanks. For years it has been common knowledge that women are more attracted to men that have a lot of money to spend on them. However, according to the Lovegeist report which is the UK’s largest annual survey into singletons’ attitudes in regards to love, “thoughtful gestures” has been consistently found to have more importance than “extravagant gestures”.
Babes who are on a budget would rather their partner perform nice, meaningful actions (like getting rid of pesky insects, remembering to take care of the household chores she dislikes, making presents that have a special meaning, even simply listening to her when she says something) on a regular basis than buy those high priced presents that are only given on an occasion. This is just one means in which Beta males can come out on top over the Alphas in the world of romance. Women are on the lookout for partners who will be good providers and make them feel secure but also those who can be counted on when they really need them. Never forgetting her favorite flowers is just fine – it will deepen the love a lot more than a whole bunch of something that she dislikes.